You see when I first got to Nashville, I just wanted to find friends. I joined groups and met tons of people. Now I wonder, are they really all my friends? Would I do anything for them? See the statement “quality over quantity” comes to mind here. I have a huge quantity of friends here, but do I really have quality friends? I am saying this more of an observation of myself, not of my friends.
When I start thinking of qualities I think a friend should have, these come to mind:
1. Counting on each other.
2. Trusting each other.
3. Listening (really listening) to each other.
4. Giving advice to each other - although maybe not the advice wanted.
5. Understanding each other.
6. Not judging each other.
7. Sharing with each other.
8. Forgiving each other.
9. Encouraging each other.
Would I really be willing to do anything for my "friends" and vice versa? Would I be willing to listen to my "friends" and vice versa? Do I judge my "friends" and vice versa?... etc... you get the picture...
This thought came to mind when my small group had the discussion of decisive answers: “let your yes be yes and your no be no.” Do not change your mind. Anyways, I seem to have a problem saying “yes” to everything and sometimes backing out. (which I would say is NOT being a trustworthy friend)… So that is what I am going to start working on: being a friend instead of trying to make friends. I am not going to cut anyone out of my life pursay but I am going to try to be intentional about who I call a friend. I am not going to say “we should get coffee sometime” when in all reality I don’t care to get coffee.
Thoughts?
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